F the Mommy Wars

Those are my exact feelings. 

Breastfeeding, bottle feeding, stay-at-home mom, work-from-home mom, cloth diapering, disposable diapers, home school, public school, etc.  I think we are all in this together and as long as you have your children's best interest at heart then rock on with whatever you choose!!! 

I get to have the best of both worlds: I like to say full-time mom, part-time nurse.  I stay home 4-5 days a week and work out of the home for 2-3.  And I am just as tired at night when I have been mom all day as I am when I work a 10-hour shift on my feet.  I see both sides and no one has it perfect. 

Let me tell you a story:  I ran into an old friend from college at target.  She stopped in on her lunch break in these nice dressy pants with heels, a sweater and pearls.  I was in sweatpants, no makeup, not even wearing my wedding band, sneakers and dirty hair.  I immediately felt embarrassed.  But ya know what?  She was so happy to see my kids and it made me think she is probably missing hers like crazy.  We were sitting at Target eating (or throwing) pizza and she was running errands on her lunch break because she was so busy.  See my point.   

Do I ever think about my working mom friends and wish I had a cute wardrobe like they do? Yes, I live in scrubs and sweatpants.  Do I ever think how nice it would be to leave my clean house in the morning and get home and wish it was how I left it?  Heck Yes!

Papa watches the boys at our house when I work and we are SOOOOOOO lucky to have him.  But please understand every scenario has its pros and cons.  Just hear me out!  Sometimes our situation makes me crazy.  Papa uses lots of k-cups, rolls of paper towels, gives the boys too much pop, holds the baby in my opinion for far too long, doesn't always follow our nap schedule and lets the boys eat anywhere!  BUT the boys love papa days so we just bite our tongue.  Sometimes I think dropping the boys off somewhere else sounds great - then the mess stays there!  But then daycare doesn't take sick kids so that would mean burning a sick day for me.  And I'm sure daycare doesn't get it perfect either.

I guess my point is no ones situation is perfect.  I think we all need to support each other and each others circumstances.